Relationships

“I feel like the things that I found attractive about her are so annoying to me now”.

“It’s like he is switched off. The more I try to try to find the switch, the more switched off he becomes”.

What happens when the honeymoon ends and there are two people full of expectations, fears, hopes, and disappointment, when the same things that attracted you to your partner end up driving you crazy?

Everyone brings their own baggage into their respective relationships. It’s inevitable. We all come with different size bags and in those bags are clothes that we wear all the time and are very accustomed to as well as little bits and pieces way down at the bottom that until they come to the surface, are absolute mysteries.

The fit and attraction between partners is much more complex than the visible. Just as there many layers in our respective bags, there are many layers of attraction.

Working on relationship issues involves identifying and understanding intrapersonal issues, i.e. what we have in our own bags, and interpersonal issues, i.e. what happens when you put two sets of luggage together. There will be things that complement each other and elements that cause friction.

It is natural for roles to develop in relationships, but when certain dynamics begin to feel stuck or stagnate, it is a sign that there is a problem. Whether you are an individual looking to understand and work through relationship issues, or a couple that wants to sort through baggage, I can help. Call or email to arrange for an initial consultation.